March 2021 Knowledge Newsletterr
We are in a time of tremendous change on this planet. Many people find change unsettling and fearful as they do not know what the outcome will be. My sense is that there will be a very positive future ahead.
Fear can have a paralyzing effect in our lives preventing us from moving forward, taking chances, trying new things, entering new relationships and so on. Sometimes the changes we would like to make seem so far-reaching that the mere thought of them overwhelms us. The solution to overcoming fear is to face your fears one at a time to prevent becoming overwhelmed. The idea is to build on success. Succeed in changing one area of your life and the next will be easier, and so on.
It is important to determine the source of your fear in order to overcome it as it is much easier to overcome a known quantity than an unknown one. Ask yourself:
Is your fear triggered by on outside source or is it your nature to be fearful?
If it is internal, when did it start? Was there a triggering event?
How long have you had it?
Did you grow up in a household that encouraged you to be fearful of anything new or unknown?
If you have many fears is one fear greater than another?
What is your greatest fear?
What does your fear prevent you from doing?
Is there anyone you are fearful of? Often when we are fearful of a type of personality because of our upbringing or experiences, such as an authority figure, we project our fears onto other people that remind us of that person.
Is your fear about exposure - anything about yourself or your history that you don’t want others to know about you? If you're unsure, take a look at what you try to keep hidden from others.
Write down your fears on a piece of paper and prioritize them. Perhaps you want to start to reduce that fears with your least fearful one. You can overcome your fears by being aware of triggers such as people, situations and places that illicit fear. Either avoid such places and peoples and if that is not possible, then expose yourself for only short periods of time to desensitize yourself. With time, you will be able to be in such situations for longer periods.
After determining what your fears are, it is important to be aware of what you internally tell yourself or others when faced with obstacles or fear. Notice the language you use. Do you frequently say “I won’t, I can’t, It’s hard, I don’t like it, I am a skeptic, or I don’t believe it?” These are negative statement that act as deterrents to your doing anything. Saying “I will try or I will attempt that” is like saying “I will try but I will fail.” Better to start your sentences with “I will, I can do it, or I believe it” as this suggests positive action. Remember your body responds to your thoughts and fear makes it tense up. So always think positively.
The only way to change your beliefs about yourself and others are by recognizing them. You cannot change what you do not own. Become self-aware so that you catch your negative self-messages and replace them with positive ones.
Our unconscious mind is the depository of all our beliefs. It rules our emotions and our bodies based on the beliefs we hold. To determine your beliefs, say “I love and accept myself completely just the way I am” and write down any contrary statements that come to mind. Those statements will highlight your true beliefs. To change those beliefs, make a positive affirmation in the present tense and repeat it 100 times a day for 4-6 weeks or however long it takes to until you no longer believe that old belief. For example, if you have fear about not having enough money, say “I trust I have all the abundance I need and want.”
Our attitudes are an outward manifestation of our thinking. For example, if you believe no one loves you because that is what you experienced growing up, and you join a new group, you will expect them to dislike you immediately, even though they don’t know you. You may appear withdrawn to them and they may feel uncomfortable approaching you. Even if they do welcome you, you still hold back because of your belief they will dislike you. Perhaps, instead of waiting for others to embrace you, you could reach out to others. Be conscious of not projecting your beliefs onto others.
Take charge of your life. Only you decide who you spend time with and where you go. Choose people that bring you joy and avoid those who trigger you. This may require that you let go of some people in your life or reduce your exposure to them. If there are people who frighten you at work and you cannot avoid them, visualize them as loving and supportive of you.
If you are having difficulty overcoming your fears and need assistance, please feel free to contact me. I am available for personal, telephone or readings over Skype, relationship coaching at any time by clicking on www.sharoncheney.com or calling me at 505 474-6363 or 514 312-2451.
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May your life be filled with peace, love and abundance and showered with blessing throughout the year.