March 2017 Knowledge Newsletter
Many people complain about not being happy in their lives and look to others or material possessions for happiness. Happiness is an inside job so the only person who can make you happy is yourself. Happiness comes from the choices we make and how we perceive life and ourselves.
Let’s consider some beliefs and behaviors that can get in our way of our being happy. If you compare yourself to others and find your life lacking, this can cause you to feel unhappy or shortchanged. Your unhappiness is based on the belief that having more of what others have will make you happier. Happiness is not connected to how much money you have. Remember rich people are just as unhappy as poor people. They may have different problems to worry about but they suffer from the same relationship issues as everyone else.
If you compare your present with better times in your life, you will feel unhappy with your present circumstances. Since you cannot turn back the clock, focusing on the past will not help you feel better but it will prevent you from living in the present where you can do something to make your life better.
Nostalgia is not all that it is cracked up to be. While it is pleasant to go down memory lane once in a while, it is better to ask what you learnt from your past experiences rather than deciding they were better than your present. When I hear people talking about a time in their lives when they made a lot of money, had a good position or did something they were proud of as if this was the pinnacle of their life, it suggests that they see their life as only downhill from there. While it is good to be proud of past accomplishments, it is better to set new goals that you want to achieve today that you can make you happy.
Fear is a big impediment to happiness as it holds us back and keeps us focused on what we lack rather than the abundance in our life. Fear of the future especially “what if” thinking is a big deterrent. Focusing only on the bad things that can happen will always leave you unhappy as it prevents you from seeing the positive. Being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t will make you feel more abundant.
It is hard to be happy if you see yourself as a victim of life. If that is how you see life, it is a perception that can be changed. You are always in the driver’s seat in determining whether you see a situation as negative or positive. I recommend seeing the positive in all situations and people you encounter.
Believe it or not, many people are afraid to be happy because they believe they don’t deserve happiness because of things they have done in their lives, because they are a bad person or because they don’t love themselves enough to let happiness in.
Many people don’t know what makes them happy so happiness feels like an elusive dream which they can never capture. To discover what makes you happy, stop doing what you always do and try different activities to see what you like. Choose to spend time with people whose company you enjoy. I know some of you will argue that you don’t get to choose your boss, co-workers or family but you do have a choice to stay in that job you hate and to decide how much time you want to spend with family members.
Happiness is hanging out with people who love and support and listen to you rather than with depressed negative people who leave you drained. Unhappy people tend to talk about their problems and expect you to fix them or be willing to listening endlessly while they repeat themselves rather than doing anything to fix their lives. You can choose your friends.
Giving away your power to others because of your need for love and acceptance can leave you feeling unhappy especially if others don’t fulfill your needs. Only you can decide to give away your power as no one can take something from you that you are unwilling to give. The solution is to love yourself rather than being dependent on others to get your needs fulfilled. Doing this will not only reduce your dependence on others but will make you feel empowered.
Many people can only visualize being happy in the future rather than right now. Doing this will always put happiness out of your grasp. You can only feel happy in your present so do things that you make you happy TODAY. I also suggest you cherish the moments of love and interconnection we experience with others during our day instead of holding out for the big love of your life to show up to make you happy.
Discovering and fulfilling your life purpose make you feel happy and gives you a sense of purpose. Fulfilling your life purpose not only will make you feel good but it will benefit others as well. It is unimportant what your purpose is, only that you fulfill it. I know from my own experiences and from speaking with others that fulfilling my life purpose has brought me much happiness.
Happiness can come from appreciating our uniqueness rather than comparing ourselves to others. There will always be others who can do things better or are smarter than us but that doesn’t mean we cannot be happy with who we are. Since you are who you are, better to appreciate your unique talents and abilities rather than find yourself lacking by comparison. Happiness is loving yourself for who you are and all that you do.
Avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness. People who are afraid of death are afraid of life. You should concern yourself not so much with the pursuit of happiness but with the happiness of pursuit. We all have an obligation to be happy. Happiness is feeling completely alive and living your life to the fullest. Remember happiness is infectious.
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