December 2015 Knowledge Newsletter
I want to wish everyone a happy and safe holiday season. This is the time of year when people are in the holiday spirit and like to express their love for friends and family. So it is important to think about how you prefer to receive and express love and how others like to receive it.
We all see love differently because of our own personal experiences and beliefs. Everyone has different expectations and ways of expressing of love. For some it is bringing flowers or gifts, helping, pleasing or being there for others. Some people want to be listened to, want others to spend time with them or leave them alone, hold them, tell them everything will be okay, pay for them or whisper sweet nothings in their ear. There is no right or wrong way to express love.
What is most important is that the other person can sense your love. This may or may not happen depending on what their expectations are. For example, if they expect gifts and you do not provide them as you feel gift giving is not how you wish to express your love, then they may conclude that you do not love them.
It is important to tell a partner, family member or friend how you like to be loved. If that person cares and is really listening and they want you to feel loved by them, they will express their feelings or treat you in a manner that fulfills your idea of love. Failure to tell others how you like to be loved can result in miscommunication and disappointment.
I would like to suggest that you take a moment and consider what love is to you. How do you like to be loved and how do you express your love to others? What are your expectations of love and are they being met? If not, why not? Do you ever tell friends, lovers or family how you like to be loved because that is your responsibility as only you know? Once you know how you like to be loved, it is important to tell others because most people are not mind readers. Also you have a much better chance at getting what you want when you ask clearly. Asking is not a guarantee but it improves your chances considerably.
A lot of people think just saying “I love you” is enough because most people want to hear those words. But when they hear these words, they interpret them through their own filters of what love is to them and this is not always representative of how the other person feels or the message they want to convey.
If you do not know how you like to be loved, think back to times in your life when you felt loved and why. Alternatively, you can think of times when you did not feel loved and ask yourself what was missing. In such times, what did someone do to make you feel unloved? Did they insult you, call you names, not invite or include you in activities, not thank or acknowledging you for something you did or were always doing, did they ignore you, not listen to you or ask how you feel and so on?
There is one other aspect to feeling loved. We need to love ourselves enough to let love in. People who do not love themselves often have a difficulty receiving love even if it comes in the form of compliments, accepting help or gifts from others or even the way they desire.
If this is your problem, then it is good to let others know that you have difficulty to receive so they don’t feel like they are being rejected when they try to love you and you cannot take their love in. We don’t live in a vacuum. Everything we do impacts others. Unfortunately, if they feel rejected or unloved because you cannot accept their love, they probably won’t say anything to you, they will just assume you are rejecting them and may pull away from you.
If you having difficulty knowing how you like to be loved or expressing your love, please feel free to contact me. I am available for personal, telephone or readings over skype, relationship coaching, regressions, and healing at any time either by clicking on www.sharoncheney.com or calling me at 505 474-6363 or 514 312 - 2451.
Check out my new website www.sharoncheney.com. If you would like to share this newsletter with friends here is the link http://www.sharoncheney.com/knowledge-newsletter-archives/December 2015 - expressing love.
Gift Certificates for the Holidays Soul Readings and relationship help are available as gifts for birthdays, holidays or other special occasions. Often a reading, coaching session, regression, healing, a class or book can change a person’s life, so if you know of anyone who could use some guidance, this is both a practical and unique gift idea.
Home Parties and Classes I can now do home parties or teach the class of your choice personally or through Skype providing you can gather a group of 6 or more in your area. The classes I offer are listed under Class Descriptions on my website.
Online classes, Guided meditation CD's, Books My classes, CD's and books Discover Your Psychic Abilities and Your Soul: The Roadmap to Your Life are available on my website www.sharoncheney.com. My latest book Love is the Answer will be available soon. It is being edited now.
For new subscribers, previous Knowledge Newsletters are now available on my website under Newsletter Archives. If you know anyone who would like to receive this newsletter, please email me their name, email address and where they live and I will be happy to add them to my mailing list.
May your life be filled with peace, love and abundance. Blessings to you all.