April 2011 Knowledge Newsletter
Spring is traditionally a time for new beginnings. With the new higher energy on the planet, we are all being challenged to change the way we respond to others. From my personal experiences, I have discovered the best approach is love.
The Answer is Love
There is nothing better than love. We all want it whether we admit that to ourselves or not. We continually seek it from others and are most pleased when people tell us they love us or demonstrate their love through the things they do for us. What could be better than love?
When you really think about it, no matter the situation, the best approach is to always respond with love. When we are angry with someone, the last thing we want to do is act lovingly towards them. That is where the challenge lies.
Yes, if they are yelling at us, we could yell back or say things we will regret later. But when we respond with love or a hug, it takes the wind out of their sails as it is hard to yell at someone who is saying they love you. Everybody wants to receive love even if they are unhappy with us at the moment.
So when you are having a disagreement with a partner, family member or friend, suddenly stop and say to the person I just want you to know how much I love you. The best response you can get to that statement is I love you too. Saying I love you can be followed up with the question then why are we arguing? Let find a solution that works for both of us. This way you address their real needs.
Love cuts right through the repetitive dialogue that goes on between people with whom we are familiar and gets down to fulfilling their basic need for love. It is also reassuring to know that someone still loves you even when you are mad at them. Most people expect that when they are angry with you, you will respond with anger as well.
So be the one to stop an argument in its tracks by showing them how loving you can be. If demonstrating your love is not your normal response, this will challenge you to dig deep within yourself and get in touch with that loving part of yourself instead of reacting with your usual defensive remarks or actions. Remember, being loving is skill we all possess and like most skills, the more often we practice it, the easier gets.
After all, when people are complaining about what we did or failed to do, it is because they are not feeling loved by us? They will probably never tell us that they do not feel loved by us when we behave a certain way. They will probably never admit that we are not fulfilling their needs either because they are unaware of their needs, they do not know how to express them, or are afraid to ask for what they really want.
The best response to this is to ask them what they would really like you to do. You could ask if they are feeling loved. You do not necessarily have to do as they ask but at least they will feel heard and you will discover where the real problem lies.
Even if you are not in communication with someone or have not spoken for a long time due to some past dispute, you can still send them love and healing every day. Your loving intention will reach its destination. Even if you do not hear from the person, they will know on some level that you are sending them loving thoughts as we are all telepathic. This is true whether we realize it or not. You too will feel much better within yourself when you send loving thoughts towards that person rather than negative ones. So you benefit as well as them.
I have tried this approach with success with my sister with whom I had not spoken for 22 years. I sent her loving thoughts every day for 4 months and last month we spoke for the first time in 22 years. I share this with you to demonstrate that our thoughts do reach others even over a distance.
This is a time for healing relationships so we can move forward in our personal evolution. No one wants to carry their emotional baggage into their future. After all, our future is not supposed to look like our past but it will if we continue to think and respond the way we always do. If we are to become a 5th dimensional beings, we have to do things differently now.
So I invite you to look through your life and see where you could be more loving, especially to those with whom you have difficulties. Notice what your usual response is. If it is thinking I don’t really want to talk to them or they are just going to do what they always do which I find so annoying this may require a change in your attitude. Perhaps next time when they do what they always do which you find annoying, you can stop them and tell them how much you love them.
You may have to do this more than once because they may not believe you the first time. Most likely they are anticipating your negative attitude or response which is why they keep doing what they are doing. They do it because they do not feel loved by you. When you do something loving, you will not only transform your relationship, but you will save yourself a lot of aggravation in the future.
It is such a simple solution to say I love you that it is a wonder people do not do it more often. Remember when you say I love you; make sure you speak in a loving tone of voice as we derive more meaning from a persons tone than their words.
If you have difficulty to say I love you to someone better ask yourself why it is so difficult. Is it really because you do not love them or is it because you want some thing from them? Perhaps they are not meeting your expectations or doing what you want. If that is the case, you need to ask clearly for what you want. If your expectations are a problem, perhaps they need some revision. The higher our expectations the less likely they will be met, whether they are expectations we have for ourselves or others. So be kind to yourself and others and strive to be imperfect. Life is much easier that way.
I hope I have convinced you that it is better to be loving. If you need my help with difficult relationships or any other challenges you are facing, please feel free to contact me. I am available for personal, telephone and webcam readings, empowerment coaching, regressions, and healing either by responding to this newsletter or calling me at 505 474 6363 or 514 312 2451.
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